Break from dating and relationships
This could be when we’re fresh out of a relationship or just a little raw from life. It’s totally OK to take time out from dating if you need a minute to work on yourself.
But, in this time, you should be actively working on the healing.
Here are a couple of examples and how it turned out for me: Repeating The Same Relationship: In my early 20s, I never put men first in my life. It wasn’t that I wanted him back—I cheated on him for a reason.
Relationships weren’t a big deal to me but I always had someone in my life. I had been dating this guy for almost two years when he found out that I had been cheating on him. It was excruciating to know that I was the reason behind someone feeling that much pain. I went out with a few people but I told them up front that I absolutely wasn’t looking for anything serious.
If you’re single and looking for a boyfriend or husband, as many of my clients and friends are, I say you’ve got to be going on all cylinders at all times.
Dating is basically a full time job and you’re not going to get anywhere if you treat it as anything less.
Maybe something is going on in your family or you could be very busy at work.
Whatever the case, if you find yourself cancelling dates and accidentally ghosting on perfectly good men because you can’t focus on dating, then it’s fine to take a step away from the swiping and meeting of dating. And you don’t want your personal happiness to always play second fiddle to your professional success. And after a slew of bad first dates, it can be very easy to be discouraged.
Another very viable out from dating is when you just can’t prioritize it.
Last weekend—almost two years later to the day—Jaime and Joe were married.
Even when you suspect you’ve found The One, it’s totally normal for couples to go on a break (or even break up, like Jaime and Joe) and eventually rekindle the romance.
Jaime and Joe had one of those summertime romances that only exist in New York, filled with drinks that turn into lengthy dinners, evenings out with friends, and even trips to the gym that somehow still felt incredibly romantic. It was the quintessential “it’s not you, it’s me” speech.
But for Jaime, who was a late 20-something working in public relations at the time, the relationship wasn’t just a summer fling. It wasn’t easy, but it was a fairly clean break, except for the fact that they both worked in PR and inevitably bumped into each other at industry events.